Mistress: 49th is the fetish Shade

Her aunt was French. She was not beautiful but all of her other characteristics were perfect. She had all the good French manners- Savoir vivre-. She didn’t talk much. She always kept a distance from other people. And that was the main reason I wasn’t feeling too good to talk in front of her about my dream.

As her aunt entered the room I rolled and sat on the floor with my back against the wall facing Michaele’s bed. The two women sat opposite me.

‘Aunt, my friend here had a dream and we would like to hear what you think it means?’

‘Ok, but it’s been a while since I did that for the last time and I hope I didn’t lose my talent’ she said smiling. So what is it your dream about?

‘It’s very strange, I don’t know.’ I smiled and looked down hoping she wouldn’t insist. 

No reaction. Just silence from both of them.

‘Well?’ Michaele added .

‘Don’t keep us waiting’ Michaele’s tone sounded just like last night’s when she told me to kiss her feet! I felt too weak to oppose.

‘I dreamed that Michaele wanted me to kiss her feet’ I couldn’t believe what I have just said. I was unable to talk no more. Michaele started laughing hysterically while her mom lit a cigarette. I felt embarrassed.

‘I am going to ask you one question and I want one true answer. Were you aroused last night after that dream?’

‘I swear I don’t see Michaele in a sexual way.’

‘Just answer the question’ her aunt said raising the tone of her voice making Michaele stop laughing and me lowering my look.

‘The truth is yes, but I don’t know why?’

‘And I can guess you would like to do it in real life. Am I correct?’

I didn’t think about it until that moment. I felt a tremendous wish to kneel in front of her and experience the sensation I had last night. The entire scene was too emotional. Michaele’s dominant way of asking left me no choice.

‘I would yes’ I whispered.

‘What is going on here? Michaele said. Mom you make him feel uncomfortable.’ Her mom made her a sign to hush and she turned to me.

‘Listen kid, what you feel come right from your soul, from your mind. You have a submissive character. This is not a bad thing. Many men have submissive fantasies but only a few make them come true. As you know, in this life we are living everything has its price.’

‘I don’t understand’ I said.

‘You will understand in a moment. What I mean is that you have a chance to experience now something that you may ask for the rest of your live and you never get it – but this can be done only if Michaele wishes-  If you kiss someone’s feet, it’s an action of seduction and Submissiveness.

It is a way to show that you accept someone as your superior, as your owner.

By doing it you deny all your freedoms. After that you lose your human substance and you become your owner’s property. You have no rights. No right to talk, to eat, to write or even to think. Your life will focus on your owner’s needs. From the other hand, the owner should use you as it pleases her. There are no limits. This relationship will lasts for a life time unless if the owner wishes to stop it by letting you free or by selling you to another person or even by removing his life.’ I was lost.

From the book: Mistress

Types of BDSM arrangements

The paperwork is always unique in the arrangement. You can’t just apply a standard document to every single relationship as every relationship is different. The general classifications as to the kinds of relationships that exist including Mentoring, Protection, Coaching, Service Oriented, Fully Owned and Play Only. Popular interactions include:

• Master/slave – the slave gives up all rights and decision making power to the Master. If it’s a total control (TC) then slave has no to say no and without any limits; is in the Master’s control.

• Dominant/submissive – Subs set limits on sexual play and punishment and can stop role play at any time. Here subs get a choice as to which aspects of their lives they will allow the Dominant to run. In effect, Dominants have less power over submissives than Masters have over slaves.

• Pets – it  is an agreement where the slave have to live a life of the master’s desired  pet. Slave is dehumanized and takes on the characteristics of an animal pet like a puppy or pony under the control of an Owner.

• Online– these are adapted situational engagement where the parties are engaged as dominance/submission over the internet. These popular parties often have multiple partners.

• Scene only – It is a series of events usually documented which don’t encompass a whole relationship or lifestyle. Negotiated prior to a sexual play scene is done and typically focus on a one off play event. 

Mistress: Finding my 50th shade in India

BDSM Bondage, Dominance (Discipline) and Submission (Sadism) and Masochism

BDSM is a range of erotic practices concerning dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics. And may require –

A top/dominant: partner who controls the activity

A bottom/submissive partner who is controlled

A switch: switches between roles

(SOURCE: From Wikipedia)

In the practice; a dominant person may be referred to as a ‘dom’ for a man, and a ‘domme’ for a woman. Individuals who can change between top/dominant and bottom/submissive roles—whether from relationship to relationship or within a given relationship—are known as switches.

From 1969 when the first BDSM was practiced and  drafted it has altered so far from the practice like B&D (bondage and discipline) adding S&M (sadomasochism, or sadism and masochism) to today as a catch-all phrase covering a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures.

BDSM communities do not disgrace anyone with a non- normative streak or anyone who identifies with the community; this may include cross-dressers, extreme body modification-enthusiasts, animal players, latex or rubber aficionados, and others.

                                                                                                       

The interaction between tops and bottoms—where physical or mental control of the bottom is surrendered to the top—is sometimes known as ‘power exchange’, whether in the context of an encounter or a relationship.

BDSM actions can often take place during a detailed period of time settled by both parties, referred to as ‘play’, a ‘scene’, or a ‘session’. Participants usually derive pleasure from this, even though many of the practices—such as inflicting pain or humiliation or being restrained—would be unpleasant under other circumstances.

Whether it is a public ‘playspace’—ranging from a party at an established community dungeon to a hosted play ‘zone’ at a nightclub or social event—the parameters of allowance can vary. Some have a policy of panties/nipple tape for women (underwear for men) and some allow full nudity with explicit sexual interaction allowed.

NOTE: It is mutual consent that makes a clear legal and ethical distinction between BDSM and such crimes as sexual assault or domestic violence.

For their consent, they must have relevant information (extent to which the scene will go, potential risks, if a safe word will be used, what that is, and so on) at hand and the necessary mental capacity to judge. The resulting consent and understanding is occasionally summarized in a written ‘contract‘, which is an agreement of what can and cannot take place.

Terminology and Subtypes

Studies among BDSM practitioners in the INDIA have shown that about half of all men find the idea of bondage to be erotic; and many women do as well. Strictly speaking, bondage means binding the partner by tying their appendages together; for example, by the use of handcuffs  or by lashing  their arms to an object. Bondage can also be achieved by spreading the appendages and fastening them with chains to a St. Andrew's cross or spreader bars.

BDSM is all about rules and punishment; more the  discipline more the chances of getting perks and less discipline leads to Punishment, which is the sweetest pain caused physically (such as caning), humiliation caused psychologically (such as a public flagellation) or loss of freedom caused physically (for example, chaining the submissive partner to the foot of a bed).

Hard BDSM sessions are the level 2 session, which can expose the Submissive to a wide range of sensual impressions, for example: pinching, biting, scratching with fingernails, spanking or the use of various objects such as crops, whips, liquid wax, ice cubes, Wartenberg wheels, erotic electro-stimulation or others.

 Trust and sexual arousal help the partners enter a shared mindset.

Professional Services

A professional dominatrix or professional dominant, often referred to within the culture as a ‘pro-dom(me)’, offers services encompassing the range of bondage, discipline, and dominance in exchange for money. The term ‘dominatrix’ is little-used within the non-professional BDSM scene. A non-professional dominant woman is more commonly referred to simply as a ‘domme’, ‘dominant’, or ‘femdom’. There are also services provided by professional female submissive (‘pro-subs’).

Males also work as professional ‘tops’ in BDSM, and are called ‘masters’ or ‘doms’. However, it is much rarer to find a male in this profession.

INTERNET

During the last years the Internet also provides a central platform for networking among individuals who are interested in the subject. Besides countless private and commercial choices there are an increasing number of local networks and support groups emerging. These groups often offer comprehensive background and health related information for people who have been unwillingly outed as well as contact lists with information on psychologists, physicians and lawyers who are familiar with BDSM related topics.

MISTRESS: From the Land of Kamasutra

Since Indian society is said to be very conservative with regard to the sex but it is known as the land of origin of Kamasutra. After reading the entire context about BDSM which I received from the internet – which you can easy access, I needed to experiment it with myself to see whether it fits to the Indian society so my search begins for a Dom to make me her Sub.

For very long time I kept looking for a mistress over the internet; I joined various group and hidden communities but none of it helped me finding my Mistress here in India. It was evident from one of the researches that after Pakistan which was at the first place who Googled Men to men sex and offended relationships. And for India, Mistress was a frequent word which was searched with a progressive amount in the year 2010 – 2014. I knew either I was with wrong approach or there was actually nothing like new aged Kamasutra which prevails here.

But such a society could not keep itself secretive and finally I got a mistress who was ready to teach me a hard lesson & treat me as bad as possible.

Let me start from beginning. It started with a facebook search; since I was reading the manual so I was now aware for the search word so I started posting on the Dom wall and to their chat to show them my interest. It went for months and now I was about to get distracted from my fantasy but one day as I was messaging continuously to show them my urge; finally I one day on FB chat I found my mistress. Her name was Kasturi (name changed)

Kasturi: ‘hi’ she typed. Before I could write anything; she gave me her mail id & told me to mail my personal details like age, location, etc there. And she went immediately offline and blocks me.

I was thinking ‘Is it okie?’ to take the risk but my inner urge advised me to take one petite risk for BDSM sake.

So on next day I mailed my details to her mail ID & also I ask her same details which she asked me to mail & wait for her reply. On second day I got her mail & I was surprised by her mail she wrote directly that ‘If you are interested in femdom sex & you want to be my slave then meet me tomorrow on yahoo messenger on same time.’

Yahoo messenger ‘Who the hell still uses Yahoo messenger’; I asked myself.

I was still very keen and without wasting much time I downloaded the Yahoo messenger; made an ID ‘YourSlaveForever’ and send her a friend request.

I could not believe everything was going so quick and I had not imagined this in my life that it could happen here with me in India.

I stalked her ID and messenger but everything was so secretive that I could not find any clue regarding her name surname. Her id was completely different and out of world. She was hiding her identity as she didn’t write a single word about her age, location or anything.  I sign on yahoo messenger on next day on same time and to my luck she was already there. Everything was going so smooth.

She immediately messaged ‘Now answer my questions…’ I have seen dominating nature in her statement.

So I write simply ‘ok’ as my reply

‘You were searching your mistress on facebook?’ She asked.

I replied - ‘yes.’

She again asked ‘Have you ever tried femdom sex? Or slave for any mistress?’

She knew I was new to it I said ‘No I am new but my fantasy is to be slave for one mistress for at least one day’ on my reply again she asked ‘Do you know it is a painful act and need devotion’ she was rude and I was surprised by her language.

I just agreed. Actually I was very keen to this type of sex as I was already working over it so for the experience I already had watched a lot of porn movies.

And I agreed.

‘Good; then be ready.’ She said.

She then questioned me ‘Tell me what you can do for your mistress to make her happy?’

‘Anything I can do for my mistress; your wish my command’ I texted back.

‘How much amount of pain you can take?’ she asked.

‘This is my first time I’ll try my best to absorb as much pain as possible.’ I was little afraid this time.

‘Don’t make a hypothetical statement; It wasn’t a quantitative answer’ I could feel a dominating nature from her sentence & she also used very rough language.

‘I can take any amount of pain.’ I knew I had no choice.

‘Sure!! You can think again till my next message’ she warned me.

 ‘Yes I am sure’ I replied wasting no time.

‘From today onwards I am your Mistress & you’re my Slave and you’ll do whatever I’ll tell you to do. Be ready for the appointment’ a message popped on the screen.