BDSM Bondage, Dominance
(Discipline) and Submission (Sadism) and Masochism
BDSM is a range of erotic practices concerning dominance and
submission, role-playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics. And may
require –
A top/dominant: partner who controls the activity
A bottom/submissive partner who is controlled
A switch: switches between roles
(SOURCE: From Wikipedia)
In the practice; a dominant
person may be referred to as a ‘dom’ for a man, and a ‘domme’ for a woman.
Individuals who can change between top/dominant and bottom/submissive
roles—whether from relationship to relationship or within a given
relationship—are known as switches.
From 1969 when the first BDSM
was practiced and drafted it has altered
so far from the practice like B&D (bondage and discipline) adding S&M
(sadomasochism, or sadism and masochism) to today as a catch-all phrase covering
a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct
subcultures.
BDSM communities do not disgrace
anyone with a non- normative streak or anyone who identifies with the
community; this may include cross-dressers, extreme body
modification-enthusiasts, animal players, latex or rubber aficionados, and
others.
The interaction between tops and bottoms—where physical or mental
control of the bottom is surrendered to the top—is sometimes known as ‘power
exchange’, whether in the context of an encounter or a relationship.
BDSM actions can often take place during a detailed period of time
settled by both parties, referred to as ‘play’, a ‘scene’, or a ‘session’.
Participants usually derive pleasure from this, even though many of the
practices—such as inflicting pain or humiliation or being restrained—would be
unpleasant under other circumstances.
Whether it is a public ‘playspace’—ranging from a party at an
established community dungeon to a hosted play ‘zone’ at a nightclub or social
event—the parameters of allowance can vary. Some have a policy of
panties/nipple tape for women (underwear for men) and some allow full nudity
with explicit sexual interaction allowed.
NOTE: It is mutual consent that makes a clear legal and ethical distinction
between BDSM and such crimes as sexual assault or domestic violence.
For their consent, they must have relevant information (extent to
which the scene will go, potential risks, if a safe word will be used, what
that is, and so on) at hand and the necessary mental capacity to judge. The
resulting consent and understanding is occasionally summarized in a written
‘contract‘, which is an agreement of what can and cannot take place.
Terminology and Subtypes
Studies among BDSM practitioners in the INDIA have shown that about
half of all men find the idea of bondage to be erotic; and many women do as
well. Strictly speaking, bondage means binding the partner by tying their
appendages together; for example, by the use of handcuffs or by lashing
their arms to an object. Bondage can also be achieved by spreading the
appendages and fastening them with chains to a St. Andrew's cross or spreader
bars.
BDSM is all about rules and punishment; more the discipline more the chances of getting perks
and less discipline leads to Punishment, which is the sweetest pain caused
physically (such as caning), humiliation caused psychologically (such as a
public flagellation) or loss of freedom caused physically (for example,
chaining the submissive partner to the foot of a bed).
Hard BDSM sessions are the level 2 session, which can expose the
Submissive to a wide range of sensual impressions, for example: pinching,
biting, scratching with fingernails, spanking or the use of various objects
such as crops, whips, liquid wax, ice cubes, Wartenberg wheels, erotic
electro-stimulation or others.
Trust and sexual arousal help
the partners enter a shared mindset.
Professional Services
A professional dominatrix or professional dominant, often referred to
within the culture as a ‘pro-dom(me)’, offers services encompassing the range
of bondage, discipline, and dominance in exchange for money. The term
‘dominatrix’ is little-used within the non-professional BDSM scene. A
non-professional dominant woman is more commonly referred to simply as a
‘domme’, ‘dominant’, or ‘femdom’. There are also services provided by professional
female submissive (‘pro-subs’).
Males also work as professional ‘tops’ in BDSM, and are called
‘masters’ or ‘doms’. However, it is much rarer to find a male in this
profession.
INTERNET
During the last years the Internet also provides a central platform
for networking among individuals who are interested in the subject. Besides
countless private and commercial choices there are an increasing number of
local networks and support groups emerging. These groups often offer
comprehensive background and health related information for people who have
been unwillingly outed as well as contact lists with information on
psychologists, physicians and lawyers who are familiar with BDSM related
topics.
